{"id":13762,"date":"2019-02-18T12:01:15","date_gmt":"2019-02-18T12:01:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/?p=13762"},"modified":"2026-04-10T10:11:47","modified_gmt":"2026-04-10T10:11:47","slug":"7-ways-to-increase-your-childs-resilience","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/7-ways-to-increase-your-childs-resilience\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways to increase your child&#8217;s resilience"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p style=\"padding-bottom: 5px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 200%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; color: #3366ff;\"><strong>Your child&#8217;s resilience is influenced by two things; the individual characteristics they were born with and the environmental influences around them.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n<p style=\"padding-bottom: 5px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 200%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; color: #3366ff;\"><strong>As a parent there are five areas to focus on when you&#8217;re building a child&#8217;s resilience, these are:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n<ol>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Providing education about resilience.<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Building strong and supportive relationships.<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Working on being responsible and independent.<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Developing their emotional intelligence and coping strategies.<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Creating supported and challenging, risk-taking opportunities.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Imagine if a teacher gave every student in their class a pack of playing cards and asked them to build a house. We all know how frustrating this can be, as they keep tumbling down. Put a different hat on now, and imagine you are an observer sitting quietly in the corner of that classroom. I want you to consider how each of the children is learning, adapting and reacting after each tumble of the cards.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Think about these questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul> \n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">How many times does each child try before they gave up?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Would they construct their card house the same way each time or change it up?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Do they copy their friends?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Would they get frustrated, act out, get upset with themselves or yell at their friends or their teacher, when the cards tumble?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Would they laugh every time the cards fell down?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Would they celebrate each time a new level of the card house went up?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Would they partner up and work together to pool their intellect and resources?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Do they appear to be having fun or feeling anxious?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Do they want to win and build the biggest and best house first, or are they happy to plod along and build the perfect house with every meticulous step?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Are they simply giving up after their first attempt, thinking it\u2019s just too hard?<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial; line-height: 35px; margin-left: 15px;\">Do they start knocking other student\u2019s card houses down creating mayhem and upset?<\/li>\n<\/ul> \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">You can learn a lot about resilience from watching children build card houses, can&#8217;t you?<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">I wonder what your child would do? Do you think they would react in one of the ways above?<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Resilience is not a static emotion, it can vary; hour to hour, day-to-day and week to week; depending on what else is going on in our lives. A child who learns differently and is struggling at school can often have low levels of resilience.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">They may feel like a duck swimming, trying to remain calm on the surface all the while paddling like a mad person underneath.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 200%; font-family: Arial;\"><strong>If you have a child or a student who needs a resilience boost, here are seven ways you can help them:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial;  color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Look for the positives<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/blur-calcium-close-up-236010-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13775\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/blur-calcium-close-up-236010-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/blur-calcium-close-up-236010-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/blur-calcium-close-up-236010-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/blur-calcium-close-up-236010-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Having a glass half full is so much better than having a glass half empty. Positives can be found in everything. Encourage your child to see what they have achieved, rather than what they haven\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<center><div style=\"border: 0px solid #bbf8ef; background: #cae9f5; width: 90%; margin: 20px auto; line-height: 1.3; text-align: center; padding: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\"><p style=\"font-size: 160%;\">\u201cFind positives in a challenging situation and change negative thoughts and comments into positive statements to build a child&#8217;s confidence.\u201d<\/p><\/span><\/div><\/center>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">\u201cI am hopeless at school\u201d, could become, \u201cEven though reading is a challenge, I&#8217;m really good at sport and music.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute-1024x683.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13780\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute-1024x683.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute-768x512.png 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute-150x100.png 150w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/girl-flute.png 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial;  color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Make a plan and set goals<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Setting small achievable goals that children can reach easily, builds confidence, and the more confidence grows, the more their resilience will grow.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Setting big goals to start with, is often a trap we fall into as adults.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">It only takes one small thing to go wrong before the whole goal we\u2019ve helped our child set, becomes unachievable and your child feels like a failure, so remember, start small.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<center><div style=\"border: 0px solid #bbf8ef; background: #cae9f5; width: 90%; margin: 20px auto; line-height: 1.3; text-align: center; padding: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\"><p style=\"font-size: 160%;\">\u201cYour child can&#8217;t be confident and successful until they understand how it feels to be confident and successful.\u201d<\/p><\/span><\/div><\/center>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence-1024x684.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13786\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence-1024x684.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence-768x513.png 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence-150x100.png 150w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/little-girl-gaining-confidence.png 1194w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial; color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Allow them to make mistakes and learn from the consequences<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">It can be a fine line, knowing when to step in and advocate on behalf of our children and when to protect them from a mistake knowing the added stress this will bring.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">But\u2026 knowing when to let them take the rap for a mistake or bad choice from time to time is important in the process of building your child\u2019s self-control and resilience.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">I&#8217;m talking about forgetting their homework, not studying for a test or leaving assignments until the last minute. Maybe they\u2019ve forgotten their lunch or have decided they&#8217;re not going to attend a sport or music practice.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">When your child makes a decision that you don&#8217;t believe is the correct one, you can guide them, but as they get older, the time will come when they need to become more responsible for the choices they make.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">No one likes to make a mistake and get into trouble for it or be penalized as a result, but often these are the consequences of bad choices.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<center><div style=\"border: 0px solid #bbf8ef; background: #cae9f5; width: 90%; margin: 20px auto; line-height: 1.3; text-align: center; padding: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\"><p style=\"font-size: 160%;\">\u201cMaking mistakes or experiencing small failures brings with it an opportunity to learn and grow, to understand that failing is not all bad and if you are going to fail, do it fast and move on. Then when a big failure occurs, the skill set to be resilient is already well developed.\u201d<\/p><\/span><\/div><\/center>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial; color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Chores and responsibilities<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Making children responsible for certain tasks builds a sense of importance. Your child may not understand how critical it is to take the bins out at night until they hear the garbage truck pulling up out the front in the early hours of the morning. Then they have to run outside their pyjamas, or worse still, have to bear the consequences of working out to do with the overflow of rubbish for the coming week.<\/span><\/p>\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13792\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920-150x113.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/waste-384790_1920.jpg 1920w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Having chores and responsibilities gives your child self-worth and getting it right, can make them appreciate how taking action can make a difference.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial; color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Models, mentors, and examples<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Everyone is good at something. Activities that prove your child is successful are important. They could mentor other children in areas where they excel or alternatively somebody could be mentoring them to make them even better.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px; padding-bottom: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Using role models or characters in books to help start a discussion about choices can highlight how other experience struggles and overcome difficulties.<\/span>\n \n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends-1024x683.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13794\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends-1024x683.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends-768x512.png 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends-150x100.png 150w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/friends.png 1500w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n \n<\/p><p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Having good relationships and support from family, school and the community is very important in developing resilience. Children use adults as role models and if those role models show good resilience, your child is more likely to learn how to be resilient too.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 180%; font-family: Arial; color: #3366ff;\"\"><strong>Develop good open communication and support networks<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n \n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Whenever you can, take time to listen to what your child has to say and find out how they are feeling. Your child wants to know they can come to you with any personal problems or challenges. Don&#8217;t give them the answers every time, instead, encourage them to think about the solutions to their problems and work towards a win-win solution together.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/104308-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13801\" width=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/104308-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/104308-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/104308-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/104308-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n<p style=\"padding-top: 10px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 160%; font-family: Arial;\">Resilience is not just a skill for school, it&#8217;s for life, and our children need to develop the skills to overcome the challenges they face every day.<\/span><\/p>\n \n<center><div style=\"border: 0px solid #bbf8ef; background: #cae9f5; width: 90%; margin: 20px auto; line-height: 1.3; text-align: center; padding: 20px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial;\"><p style=\"font-size: 160%;\">\u201cA happy, confident, resilient child is more likely to deal with life&#8217;s ups and downs and come up smiling.\u201d<\/p><\/span><\/div><\/center>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your child&#8217;s resilience is influenced by two things; the individual characteristics they were born with and the environmental influences around them. 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