{"id":14582,"date":"2019-03-18T11:12:02","date_gmt":"2019-03-18T11:12:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/?p=14582"},"modified":"2026-04-27T03:08:04","modified_gmt":"2026-04-27T03:08:04","slug":"i-feel-so-guilty-i-feel-so-guilty-why-didnt-i-pick-this-up-earlier","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dyslexiadaily.com\/blog\/i-feel-so-guilty-i-feel-so-guilty-why-didnt-i-pick-this-up-earlier\/","title":{"rendered":"I feel so guilty. Why didn\u2019t I pick this up earlier?\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\"\"\/

When your child is diagnosed with a learning difficulty, your feelings and emotions will go into overdrive. These emotions will be influenced by the time it has taken to get the diagnosis and how the delay has impacted your child\u2019s confidence and well-being.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n\n

Here are 5 emotions you may feel<\/span><\/p><\/strong>\n

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  1. Guilt<\/li>\n
  2. Anger<\/li>\n
  3. Denial<\/li>\n
  4. Relief<\/li>\n
  5. Frustration<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n

    Let\u2019s look at these emotions more carefully and what you might be saying to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    If you are having an attack of the guilts<\/span><\/p><\/strong>\n\nYou might say…<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    \u201cI feel so bad, why didn\u2019t I pick this up earlier?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI feel ashamed because I didn\u2019t even realise there was a problem.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cDid I do something wrong while I was pregnant?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    If you are feeling Angry<\/span><\/p><\/strong>\n

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    \u201cI\u2019m mad, why can\u2019t my child just be normal?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    \u201cI\u2019m angry with my husband. It\u2019s all their fault, they bombed out at school too.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI\u2019m angry with my father. This must be inherited, he could never read well either.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u2018I\u2019m angry with myself. I should have known about this years ago.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n \n

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    Anger, frustration, and embarrassment can all be emotions that rise to the surface when you\u2019re dealing with the realisation that your child will face different challenges to others.<\/span><\/p>\n \n

    You may look to assign blame even when there isn\u2019t anyone to blame.<\/span><\/p> \n\n

    Denial<\/span><\/p><\/strong>\n

    A diagnosis can be hard to accept because it challenges our idea of what normal is.<\/span><\/p> \n

    To us our children are perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    You might say…<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    \u201cThey\u2019re OK. We\u2019ll be fine. It can\u2019t be that bad.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cThere\u2019s nothing wrong with my child, what are they raving on about.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI don’t care what the stupid report says. My child just has to work a bit harder, that\u2019s all.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    Relief<\/span><\/p><\/strong>\n

    Some of you may be feeling relieved because your suspicions have finally been proved right. At least now you have an answer.<\/span><\/p> \n

    You might say…<\/span><\/p> \n

    \u201cI feel so much better and more in control. Now I can get some proper assistance for my child.\u201d<\/span><\/p> \n

    \u201cFinally, I know exactly what is going on.\u201d<\/span><\/p> \n

    \u201cGreat, now my child can access some of the available education support programs.\u201d<\/span><\/p> \n\n

    If you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated,\nyou might say things like…<\/span><\/p><\/strong> \n

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    \u201cI feel lost. What do I do now?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cNot another thing to deal with on top of everything else.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cHow did this happen?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    \u201cI don\u2019t have the time or money to deal with this.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

    Overwhelm and frustration creeps in when you don\u2019t have a plan or when you feel there is too much to do. Setting small achievable goals and making plans can help to reduce your frustration.<\/span><\/p>\n\n

    It is important to recognise what you are feeling and seek help if you are feeling overwhelmed by these emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n \n

    \u201cYou are the key and the only key to the door of your child\u2019s happiness and success.\u201d<\/p><\/span>

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    When your child is diagnosed with a learning difficulty, your feelings and emotions will go into overdrive. These emotions will be influenced by the time it has taken to get the diagnosis and how the delay has impacted your child\u2019s confidence and well-being. Here are 5 emotions you may feel...
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